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Mothers: The Glue That Holds Everything Together
What makes motherhood a divine calling rather than just a biological function? In this heartfelt Mother's Day episode, we peel back the layers of what truly defines a mother's heart and impact.
Motherhood comes in many beautiful forms—biological mothers, adoptive mothers, and spiritual mothers who guide younger women through life's challenges. The common thread? That remarkable capacity for selfless love that seems woven into women's hearts by divine design. As Frank observes, while men often struggle with putting others first, mothers naturally prioritize their children's needs above their own.
Perhaps most profound is how mothers establish the emotional climate of their homes. "If mom is feeling relaxed, everyone feels relaxed. If mom's edgy, everyone feels on edge." This tremendous influence means mothers must prioritize not just physical self-care, but spiritual nourishment through prayer and Scripture. The biblical framework for motherhood outlined in Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 isn't an impossible standard—it's God's beautiful design waiting to be embraced.
Darcie vulnerably shares her journey from actively resisting motherhood to treasuring it: "I never wanted to be a mom or wife, and that came from a place of fear. I thought staying home meant you were controlling me and keeping my dreams from happening. Now I'm so thankful for this calling." Her transformation reminds us that our greatest joy often waits where we least expect it. What sacred calling might you be resisting today? Join us weekly as we continue exploring how God restores our understanding of His perfect design for our lives.
You are listening to the Restored Podcast with Frank and Darcy Montgomery. Welcome back to another episode of the Restored Podcast with Frank and Darcy Montgomery. Welcome back to another episode of the Restored Podcast. My name is Frank and I'm here alongside my beautiful wife, Darcy.
Speaker 2:Hello.
Speaker 1:And today we're recording. It is Mother's Day, so I want to start by wishing you a very happy Mother's Day.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:And to let you know how thankful I am for you and how blessed I am that not only are you my wife, but you are the mother to my child, are the mother to my child. I also feel blessed that for the past 18 years we were blessed with the ability for you to stay at home and really spend a lot of time with him, raising him, and I know you have dedicated your entire life to making sure the wants and needs of your family myself and Hayden made sure that they were always taken my wife and to tell you thank you, thank you, and to let you know that if we don't say thank you enough and I'm speaking for Hayden here as well that we really are appreciative and we love you and just so thankful for you.
Speaker 2:Thank you, you got me over here crying.
Speaker 1:Now, since today is Mother's Day, we wanted to spend some time talking about mothers and what that is and what that entails, and so, now that you're done crying, why don't you take us down that path?
Speaker 2:Well, when I think of mothers, I think of women, obviously, but there are different types of mothers. There are the ones that actually give birth, there are the adoptive, there are the spiritual mothers, and all of them you know, love and nurture and try to help others grow. To me, that's what you know being a mother truly is, and it's a selfless thing, or it should be. It's the way that God designed it. It's a selfless thing, the selfless love.
Speaker 1:Well, I think any mother who loves their child, they do love them selfishly. Not selfishly, well that too. But um, I mean, I've seen it firsthand with you. I mean you've, you've gone without something, that you've wanted to make sure that hayden had what he needed or what he wanted. I've seen you, you know, console him, be there for him when you yourself needed consoling. That's what being a mother is all about and, to be honest, I don't know if guys can do that.
Speaker 2:I don't know if that was in God's design. I mean, they love. They love their kids, they love their wives, but they love in a different way.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. I mean, I'm a guy and I can tell you that it's difficult for me at times to love selflessly. You know, and I think a lot of guys have that as well to where you know, and it's from the enemy- yeah.
Speaker 1:That's all it is. Because the first thought that comes to mind well, I work hard, so I deserve this, or I should get this, and so we do it, even if maybe that means somebody else in the house doing without Right, and I've gotten better about that. I mean, I try to put your wants and needs in front of us, but it seems like mothers just naturally do that. I mean don't even think about it, they just automatically put their child before them. And I've watched again, I've watched you do it countless times. And, yes, God created men and women differently. He created man and woman and they work together as a team.
Speaker 2:Right, you have to have that balance is what it creates, is the balance, because you are the protector, the provider, the leader, whereas I come in and I'm the heart.
Speaker 1:You're the heart, and I would dare say that moms are the glue that holds the houses together, that holds the homes together. It is that mom's love, it is that mom's care, it is that mom's care, it is that mom's nurturing spirit, mom, and that's the way that I believe God intended it. But I know that people have to work and we have to meet a certain financial obligation to be able to survive in today's world. To be able to survive in today's world. And all that to say this, that you set the tone of the house.
Speaker 2:Unfortunately, yes, I carry that I can't have a bad day, because if I have a bad day, everybody's having a bad day.
Speaker 1:And I think part of it goes into the word homemaker. That's what you do. You make the home. But and it's not just you, I believe moms set the tone of the house. Yeah, is the house going to be relaxing, a calm, nice environment, or is it going to be chaotic and unruly? Yeah, and I think it all begins with the mom and how she carries herself and how she does that around the house. And the woman is the mood setter of the house. The other people in the family they feed of mom, they look to mom to see how mom is feeling. And if mom is feeling good, if mom is feeling relaxed, then we're going to be relaxed and we're going to be chill. If mom's, you know, having a rough day and kind of edgy, then we're going to tend to be a little bit more edgy that day as well.
Speaker 2:And that's why it's so important for self-care. And when I say self-care, I'm not talking about the salon, or nails or, you know, a massage.
Speaker 1:But you enjoy that too right.
Speaker 2:I do, but I'm talking about your soul self-care. How are you pouring into yourself with the word and prayer and all of that? You pouring into yourself with the word and prayer and all of that, because if that's not in the right place, then there's going to be problems for everybody, and I've learned that from my own experience. I mean, you can testify to that.
Speaker 1:It's so much better to hear you testify about it, though.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean you. Obviously you know and you can tell me. And you ask me are you reading the Bible like you're supposed to? When was the last time you went into deep prayer and all that I? When we talk about me being a stay at home mom, that was not something I wanted to do. I fought against you on that because, to be completely honest, I never wanted to be a mom or a wife, and that came from a place of fear, from coming from a broken home.
Speaker 2:And when I met you and we found out we were having Hayden, I was happy about it. I was scared, but now I am just so thankful. God gave me what I needed when I needed it, and I just rely on that. And I used to be mad at you. I thought you were controlling me. I thought you were keeping my dreams from happening. I felt like I was nothing but just a support for Frank's dreams and goals, and I don't feel that way anymore. I am so thankful for this calling this position, this place that I'm at. I'm so thankful for Hayden.
Speaker 2:Well, and we're thankful for you, you talk about the position that you're in the I look at it as a calling now, before I looked at it as a prism.
Speaker 1:And if you look at it as a calling, I mean in Titus, in Titus 2, beginning in verse 3, and this is the amplified version it says older women, similarly, are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips, nor addicted to much wine, teaching what is right and good so that they may encourage the young. Yeah, where God is honored, good natured, being subject to their own husbands so that the word of God will not be dishonored. That sounds like a pretty high calling, yeah, and you brought it up earlier that you know. Today we celebrate all moms, not just moms who have given birth or even moms that have adopted.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:There are some ladies out there that have been unable to have children by adoption or naturally, and yet they still have that motherly spirit about them, because that's the way God designed and created women. And so they seek out younger women to mentor and to teach and to help raise them up, just as the scripture says that they help those younger women. Maybe it's learning how to cook, maybe it's learning how to, you know, manage a family calendar. Maybe it's learning those little things that not every young woman knows coming into a marriage, right coming into a marriage Right.
Speaker 1:And then, likewise, I mean, we can turn to you know, proverbs 31, and probably the most familiar chapter in the Bible to most women, and just read up and down that chapter of what a godly woman is. And that's the way that God designed you. And that's the way that god designed you, that's the way that god made you women act. Like that's hard to attain, right, but really it's not, because that's the way god designed women right.
Speaker 1:But then it is not hard sometimes if you've got stuff that you haven't healed, stuff you haven't given to god, and that will trip you up every time that and if you're not submitting to god's will in your life, if you're not, if you, if you're just out living willy-nilly, doing whatever, then yeah, you're not going to show those traits of a proverbs 31 woman, just as you're not going to be showing any fruit, you know.
Speaker 2:Right and there was a time that I tried to hide those traits Like I intentionally set out, to not show the love, to not show the you know sensitive side to anybody, to not show the sensitive side to anybody. And God worked with me on that no-transcript For y'all. And you remember, because you called me out on it. You know you used to get upset with me because I would try to look like a harsh person or come across as you know, not caring, you know.
Speaker 1:And that came from a place of hurt, of you trying to defend yourself and have that rough, tough exterior, even though God created you a kind, loving, caring, nurturing woman. And but getting back to everything I mean when I look at the godly mothers in my life. The first one is my mom. First of all, she chose to adopt me. We've discussed this before, but she had five full-grown children of her own before adopting me and my younger sister, and she had already adopted my older biological brother as well, making a grand total of eight children. But she chose me and the woman loved everybody and everybody and everything she was the most loving and forgiving person.
Speaker 2:She could love the unlovable and forgive the. And I watched her, I listened to her.
Speaker 1:So there's that love and Pastor talked about that this morning in his sermon about that unending love, that selfless love. And you know, I look at my mom and I see that. I look at you and I see that whenever you're not trying to be tough and put on that, put on that tough exterior, I've gotten better.
Speaker 1:But along with, along with that love that the women possess, that God created women possess, that God created placed inside of them, there's also, when I think of godly women, that prayer relationship and you talked about it earlier, about the self-care you know, and that's part of prayer, and you said that your prayer life and and not just you know, regular communication with God. But a godly mother, she is covering her children, she is covering her husband, she is covering her house in prayer and oil, literal oil.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And I know my mom called out every member of the family Right and by the time she passed away, eight children, every child but one married with children of their own Right. Those children had children. Some of those children had children. Yeah, and a couple of those children had children.
Speaker 2:That was a long list.
Speaker 1:And I mean without fail. She called their names out every day. And those are the two main qualities that I really see universally across whenever I think of a good godly mother. Those two main things you can be nurturing, but not a godly mother.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Going from being a mom who God created you to be that way, going from that to being a godly mom. I think those two things are key that prayer relationship and that ability to love and love no matter what you hurt me.
Speaker 2:I'm going to pray for you.
Speaker 1:But I love you.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to pray for you because I love you, Right? So one last time I just wanted to say happy Mother's Day. Thank you time. I just wanted to say happy Mother's Day and for a little housekeeping before we close up. It's been a little bit since we posted an episode and I apologize for that. I've allowed other things to take priority and not allow this to be a priority in my life. Some of it's legitimate, between work and Hayden stuff going on and all of that. But from today moving forward, we are going to record every Sunday.
Speaker 2:Y'all hear him and hold him to it every Sunday.
Speaker 1:Y'all hear him and hold him to it and every episode will be uploaded every Monday. So every Monday this one will be published on Mother's Day tonight. As soon as we finish recording, I'll go ahead and post it and we'll have that live. But moving forward, we will be weekly. We'll record on Sundays and post them and upload them on Mondays.
Speaker 1:We are going to switch up what we're doing on the podcast a little bit. We're going to dive more into the Bible and do more of a Bible study. After a little bit of prayer and really a lot of discussion back and forth, we've decided that we feel that's where this is supposed to be more of a Bible study. We'll still talk about things going on in our life and you know what God is showing us through that and how he's directing us and what we're learning, and we'll have guests on as well. This is the restored podcast and we want to celebrate when God has restored somebody. So we'll still do that and we look forward to it, as always.
Speaker 1:If you have any praise reports or prayer requests, you can submit those to us on Facebook. Find us at the Restored Podcast on Facebook and we also have an email that is therestoredcast at gmailcom and I guarantee you if you have a prayer request it will be taken to the Lord. Darcy is up every morning and she will take that request to the Lord and she will stay on it until the Lord answers. So we love you, we thank you. Happy Mother's Day to all the women and until next week. I am Frank.
Speaker 2:I am Darcy.
Speaker 1:And you have been listening to the Restored Podcast. Thank you.